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In my line of work, I meet a lot of great husbands and the wives who adore them. Over time, it’s not hard to pick up on a pattern among these men — especially when I chat with other wives about why they chose the men they’ve married and what qualities in their husbands have most shaped their marriage. For all those single women out there who often wonder what type of man they should marry, or how they will know if he’s The One they’re meant to spend forever with, this list is 100-percent for you. It has been prepared with love and careful consideration. It’s based on my own personal experience as a wife, those of the many wives I’ve encountered throughout my career as a Weddings and Relationships Editor, and the observations I’ve made about the great husbands I’ve met or bumped into over the years. It doesn’t have all the answers, but I promise you, it will at least have some of those you seek. Read on, ladies.
The Provider
He puts family first, always. He’s a selfless man, who lives to please those he cares most about. He’s the kind of man who can work two jobs in his sleep, always has a side-hustle in mind to earn more money, and guards his savings with his life. He can’t rest until he knows the ones he loves are okay. He strives for perfection at home and in the office. Work life balance is very important to him, but if missing time with his loved ones means a better life for them, he’s always game to put in the overtime and take one for the team. Words like “no”, “can’t”, and “impossible”, are just not in his vocabulary, and when he hears others use them, it only increases his devotion to the task at hand.
Why He Makes a Good Husband: Marriage is the start of a new family; your family. You will both want to provide for the family you create together, and it’s imperative that you are partners with the same goals in mind. That said, there will be times when one person just cannot do as much as the marriage (or family) requires – such is life. Marrying a natural-born provider will be a huge plus when the scales in your marriage tip, as they inevitably will at different points along your path.
The Rock
At your weakest moments, his strength keeps you stable and inspires you to push through. He isn’t immune to pain or frustration, but he does handle it well, and he knows how to pull himself out low places. He’s the kind of man who never misses your call when he knows you need to get something off your chest, or better, just a friend to be there for you. Speaking of chests, his is always there for you to lean on, squeeze, and find comfort in when it feels like only a hug will do.
Why He Makes a Good Husband: He’s loyal, devoted, and a true pillar in the world of the woman he loves. This is the perfect recipe for a loving husband that you can count on through thick and thin; what woman doesn’t dream of marrying one of those?
The Critical Thinker
There isn’t a problem, big or small, that he isn’t itching to solve. He’s a quick, solid, thinker, who hates to be backed into a corner. He doesn’t just see the problem in front of him; he sees a roadmap of the many solutions available to him and takes his time as he determines the best way to get there, or the course of action he must take. He is patient, because he has to be — rushing things is rarely the answer and he knows this. He’s diligent, focused, and considers himself a mental Olympian of sorts.
Why He Makes a Good Husband: Marriage is truly beautiful, but it comes with its share of problems, and its rough patches. Happier times aren’t always just around the bend — getting there may require a detailed plan and thinking smarter not harder. He will make a great team player during the moments where the only way to win is to work together, and trust me, those moments can and will arise in marriage.
The Believer
When the world around him comes crumbling down and the sun seems as if he it will never rise again, this man still believes – his faith is his foundation. It gets him through the good and the bad, and it never falters. He believes in the things unseen and those that many give up on when the world turns cold: hope, morals, kindness, and good will. He has a church home, or a religious mainstay, in his life and the fellowship refuels his engines. He’s God-fearing (whoever his God) and he’s proud of his strong beliefs. His moral compass is always turned in a positive direction, and he refuses to accept failure. He helps others and chooses to live his life in a way he believes others should live theirs.
Why He Makes a Good Husband:This man has the emotional tools needed in his toolbox to repair many of the cracks and dents that will inevitably appear in any marriage. He’s a fighter, and he will fight with you and for your marriage. He won’t give up, even when you do.
The Free Spirit
Spending time with this man never gets old. He believes that life is about living and therefore is virtually immune to the physical afflictions caused by stress and worry. It’s not that he doesn’t feel those emotions; he just refuses to let them consume him. He stays positive and seeks to enjoy all aspects of his life, as much as humanly possible. He has most likely chosen a career he loves over one that pays all the bills. Therefore he’s just as passionate about his work as he can be about feeding his cravings for new adventures. He enjoys traveling and most likely has a bucket list at least a quarter complete. He doesn’t believe in wasting time worrying about what can’t happen and prefers to shift his focus to what can. With him, there’s never a dull moment at home, in the bedroom, or when you’re out and about. His inner light shines through and warms the spirits of those around him. He keeps life exciting – almost as if, each day he presses the refresh button.
Why He Makes a Good Husband: Spending the rest of your life with the same person, doing many of the same things, can be as boring or as exciting as you make it. Marrying this man ensures that one pitfall your marriage won’t ever fall into is that of pure and utter boredom. It sounds simple, but it’s so important.
Are you married to one of these men? Would you like to be? Is your husband or boyfriend made up of parts of each of them? Do you wish he were more one than the other? How was marrying one of these guys shaped your marriage? Let’s talk about it!
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I really like this article, Wife. I thank God that I married a Provider!!! He's always working trying to keep us financially suited…he has a little of the Critical Thinker in him too. I'm still pushing and praying that he gets to his full potential as a husband because I know there's a Believer in there too!!!
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What a wonderful post! I'm married to a provider and he inspires me to work hard at launching my own business.
I love that he inspires you!! Best of luck with your business. Please keep me posted. Hugs!
My hubby is definitely a combination of all these qualities. The Rock stood out, for sure. He's also a critical thinker, who doesn't tolerate complaining about an issue and not outlining a solution.
I think finding a man with a little of each and not all of one is probably the best shot a woman has at perfection, But hey, I'm still learning as I go. We shall see, no? Thanks so much for the comment love!
Extremely well written and insightful…
Thanks Josef. Means a lot coming from a single guy. Did you find yourself in any of these descriptions? I can guess which two, but want to hear it from you. I owe you a phone call, and it's probably coming tonight.
I'm definitely married to the provider! Great list here
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Thanks! I took my time with this one. It's so nice to see that so many wives see their hubby on this list. The Provider is a sure bet for forever after. Cheers to your marriage!
Well said! I pray for this man everyday….where is he and does he really exist?!
When you find him, you'll most likely find pieces of all these men within him. I do believe he exists for every woman who's willing to be patient and believe. That said, if you're too distracted by work or focused on the wrong characteristics in a man, he could pass by and you won't even notice. My advice: Be open to love, and know what you're looking for.
I often have the same question as Shear Bliss. I am open to love and am getting better at know what I'm looking for. I am also working to move distractions that would have me miss him.
Great advice.
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I think I would love to have a good provider husband. Being an average girl with an average salary. I can't provide much for my family.
Thanks for sharing!
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This is a great article. My husband is definitely the rock, the believer, and the free spirit. He provides for us as well, but he is also in college so he can't work as many hours as he used to and still do clinicals, spend time with our children, and spend time with me but in all honesty I didn't marry him to provide for me. I married him because he knows exactly what to say to remind me that it will be okay, because he keeps me guessing about what fun we will have everyday, and because he loves God, our family, and life in general.
Wow! My husband embodies all of those qualities. Great post!
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Did you interview my husband for this? Just kidding, but he does have all of these qualities, I guess that's why I still love being married to him.
Though my amazing husband embodies all of these qualities – the Rock, and the Believer qualities in him stand out the most. Great post!
Nice article. I'm married to the provider/critical thinker. I love me some him!!!
Amen to that! This post shared so much truth behind creating a solid marriage. These are the components that help extremely and wonderfully in the complicated times that unexpectedly arise in marriage. Great piece!
I agree with all 5. I would like to add 2 more. Like one another. If you like your mate and something happens'
to the love like "fall out of love" you will be able to stay together because you like one another. Be the best of friends. What comes from being friends is communication, honesty and trust. On April 7, my husband and I will celebrate our 28th Anniversary.
I came to read this today, on women's day! I think we should make this a tribute to men, as they are not getting as big appreciation as women. Great list, I would love if we (my husband and I) could still walk hand by hand when we are old!
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I definitely live "behind a Rock" as we say, and really appreciate it.
Love how your posts are like magazine articles. Well done!
I just sent this to my husband because unfortunately he isn't any of these, but he is a work in progress. Thanks for the article.
Nicole, do you feel you have made a mistake in marrying him since he does not embody any of these qualities?
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Wow! What a comprehensive list. My fiance is comprised of all five of these men, hallelujah!
That's right Brazilian because every woman have a good husband you are really lucky..
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I'm so happy to read this post because I've affirmed the qualities that my partner has and hopefully he will sustain those qualities even when there are obstacles along the way. How long have you been married? Thanks one again very uplifting to women.
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Do you have anything on interracial marriages? My son is in a very unhappy marriage and they need help, though they are trying to work things out without professional help.
Not particularly themed around interracial marriage, no. BUT, i think any advice we share can and does apply to marriage across the board. Thanks for stopping by!
Do you have a corollary list about what makes a great wife?
Hi John, it's in progress. I hope you'll come back to see. We got a lot of requests for that and I think it's only fair. Thanks for stopping by. We appreciate ALL our readers!
Why is your blog titled Man Wife Dog? Seems to me it would be more equitably titled Husband Wife Dog or Man Woman Dog.
Amazing what one word out of place says – well at least it does to me.
Too late to change?
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It's actually not out of place, it's intentional and a bit of an inside joke within our marriage. My husband likes to call himself a "man's man" (handy with tools, loves a good beer and a sports game, not afraid to get dirty) and our dog (who has a name of course) is like family to us. My girlfriends and I always talk about our "men" whether they're husbands or boyfriends, they're men first. SO, when I decided to blog about what it's like living with a man's man and our beloved dog, I decided to call my blog Man, Wife and Dog. The focus of the blog is on me being a wife, so the title and logo are designed to make WIFE stand out, not man, or dog. Not sure what it "says" to you, but all that matters is what it says to us. Thanks for reading and commenting.
wow. today I was thinking of just these things!! Then I saw your article and said 'Yes!" exactly! that's the way a man should be as a husband! Only, it describes all of me……….sniff…:(
Err, wondering which I am, lol. Mind you must have done something right, 15 years married today.
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Happy belated 15th anniversary! Thanks for sharing the comment love. I hope to see you around the blog again soon.
Can we expect a "5 types of women who make great wives" entry?
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Yes, you can. It's in the works, promise!
Oh, a list about great wives, I would like to see that too!
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yes…when i read this artical, all i could think about is this wonderful man on my on a job about 7years ago…omg, we had so much fun, never a dull moment and he fulfill each and every one of thoses qualities…he was and still is the best male friend ever!!!
Wow! I am so glad about that my husband is a true believer!And he is such a great husband as well! We've been together for 10years now, and it is the best thing in my life!
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Great Post. I'd say i'm looking for a combination of provider, rock and Beliver. But I mostly need the rock, someone to be a support who I can also support and be there for.
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I really thank you for this article, it has actually brought closure to 3 failed relationships and why my exe's are so bitter. I never realized I was all of these things, until I read this article. This article is also confirmation of the positive changes I have made. Thank you so much for this word, I receive it.
They are not bitter, that is a bad word. I want to say they are disappointed in me, and what they knew I was. But unfortunately, they did not have the patience to allow me to become aware of these things.
God is good.
my husband is all of this and more! i do love this blog
Fab! I can see my hubby in at least 3 or 4 of these roles. Lucky me!!I So happy Josef sent me your way.
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My fiance is the "believer" extremely grounded in his faith and fights for us even when I'm struggling. I know God sent him to me. He knew exactly what I needed.
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This comment just made me so humble and incredibly grateful. The man I love is all of these things (although I'm more of the Free Spirit than he is…:). I am an incredibly blessed woman.
Unfortunately my husband has none of these traits which is why I’m questioning our marriage at this point. After being married for three years I think we are headed down the wrong path because he is not a good husband at all.
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Reading this reaffirms all the reasons I married my husband. He’s a beyond phenomenal. “It seems as if he keeps clicking the refresh button’. Lol. What a wonderful article. Thank you.
OH MY GOD! I just happened upon your blog while looking for information on what maks a phenomenal marriage to add to my own experiences for a Tele-class we have scheduled for this Thursday evening. As I read through each type my stomach was full of excitement because every type described my hubby to a tee! I mean everyone! I knew I was blessed and lucky to have him and have always wanted to be able to articulate it but was never quite able to. But your article said everything I would love to say about my hubby when I think about him and describe him to others. I have to share the order of types that describe my hubby: Believer, Rock, Critical Thinker, Provider (I'm pretty independent but He's always there when I fall short), and the Free Spirit. Although they have an order there is not alot of distance between them. I know there may be alot of women who think this type of man does not exists but I am living proof that he does because I am married to him and have been for seven wonderfully fabulous, exciting years! Thank you so much for this article. It truly warmed my heart and excited my insides!
Though my awesome spouse represents all of these features – the Stone, and the Believer features in him take a position out the most. Excellent post!
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