Thought I meant pants? Nope, shorts is what we jokingly call it. You see it pisses The Man and I off every time we hear someone say something silly like, “we see who wears the pants in that relationship”. Who still believes in that barbaric crap? We like to think of our marriage as modern and sensible, and to buy into that whole “man wears the pants” thing is just plain out of the question for me. Nobody has to have all the control in a relationship to make it functional. What sense would that make? Love and marriage wouldn’t work without sharing, and if somebody’s wearing the “pants” what exactly is that you’re sharing? In my opinion, nothing! The said pants wearer would essentially be disrespecting the one they love. It’s disrespectful to feel that your say is final in any matter and the other persons’ is irrelevant, and it’s even more so to believe that in any partnership one person’s thoughts and feelings have less value than your own.
This is where our shorts theory comes in. If your relationship is healthy then neither of you would wear the pants; instead you both wear the shorts. Meaning you’re both half responsible for every decision, and outcome in your marriage. You’re a team. It’s that simple. Just look out some of our favorite power couples. Could you put pants on any one of them? I think not! So I ask, ladies, are you and your husband both wearing the shorts in your marriage? I sure hope so! (Wink!)