Say it ain’t so! Celebrity couple Heidi Klum and Seal have announced their separating after seven seemingly (emphasis on seemingly) blissful years of marriage. Although celeb couples marry and divorce faster than we can run an errand, this split shocked many. Myself included. No, it’s not because I believe that a happy marriage on the outside means the same happiness exists behind closed doors. And, it certainly not because they were a post couple for all blended families in Hollywood. Those things aside, things can and often do still go wrong. We all know that.My jaw hit the table when I heard the news mainly because when I think of Heidi and Seal I think of a couple who embraces love and marriage and who seemingly (again, emphasis on “seemingly”) pride themselves on making it work and striving to go the distance with each other no matter what. Their very public and very genuine annual vow renewals were part of what got me their, honestly.
Here we have a couple that loved each other so much they wanted to get married over and over again to celebrate it. I would read about their ceremonies and say to myself, “That’s what I’m talking about! How sweet is that?” Until this week…
When I heard about their separation announcement I immediately thought about all those vow renewals. Were the ceremonies meant to celebrate their great love, or perhaps just their own version of trying to refresh and renew something they knew was dying? When we think about vow renewals, we think of them as honoring a marriage and the time spent in it. Don’t we? Or could they ever double as something else? Maybe a final hail Mary attempt to save a flailing marriage? You must admit, it’s something to wonder. We’ll never know exactly why Seal or Heidi choose to renew their vows every year of their marriage, or just what it meant to them at that altar, but we can ask ourselves this question: When and why will I renew my vows?
On our honeymoon Man and I agreed that five would be our magic number. It’s how long we were together before he asked me to marry him and how many times we used the words promise in our wedding vows. We agreed that night on the beach in Maui that ever five years we’d go somewhere special, wear something white, and vow to continually love each other the way we first promised we always would.
What does a vow renewal mean to you? Do you find it odd that Seal and Heidi did it so often? Have you renewed your vows? Watch Seal tell Ellen DeGeneres how “shocked” even he was by he and Heidi’s decision to separate below.