With marriage getting such a bad rep these days in the news, it’s nice to hear something positive about it pop up every now and then.
Results of a recent study conducted on married American couples revealed that three quarters of them are still “very in love” after decades of married life. Hooray for that! Ironically, we live in the Northeast, where the same results reveal that only a third of married couples were “intensely in love”.
I’m going to go out on a limb here, since I’m no psychologist, and say that judging from the amount of time my hectic work schedule leaves me to spend with my husband, quality of life probably has something to do with this stat. Working fourteen-hour days and enduring long commutes on both ends, don’t make for happy husbands or wives by the time you get home. It’s hard to feel intimate when you’re exhausted!
On the brighter side, the rest of the married couples in the country seem to be doing just fine. Men, slightly more so than women, in a surprise twist. Forty-nine percent of men checked off the “very intensely in love” answer, while forty-six percent of women did the same. I must say, I would think those numbers would be flipped. (If I had a dollar for every time my husband told me how much crap men talk about their wives at work…)
Another tidbit worth mentioning is that the happiness levels for those couples surveyed who have been married over thirty years dropped during their second decade of marriage, then increased again during their third decade. AKA, they made it work. Love that!
Have you seen a rise and fall in happiness throughout your marriage so far? Would you have answered “very intensely in love”. I would have, but hey, I’m a newlywed, so that’s expected, right? I want to hear what those of you who’ve been married longer than us have to say.
Let’s talk about the happiness factor. Real talk: Are things always peachy?