First things, first! Thank you to all the ladies who participated in last week’s revisit an old memory together assignment. You know I had such a good time reading about your shared reminiscing and the stories that came with those fun photos! Now, on to business!
You don’t need a deejay or a radio station to dedicate a song to the person you love. Comb through your iTunes library or vintage records (if that’s your thing) and seek out the song that you’d like to send out to your love. Picking out “your song” here would technically qualify as cheating on this one girls. That’s too easy! Instead, stretch yourself a little. Really take your time, think about the lyrics and the melody and the emotions of the music as you listen and find the one that speaks to your heart in some way. It may be something he’s heard before, or maybe he hasn’t.
Either way, play the song for him when you two have a quiet moment together or send him a link to it if you can’t be together so that he can sit back and listen. Explain why you chose it just for him. Maybe the words express exactly what you feel for him. Maybe it triggers a memory about him you love? Whatever it is, just tell him. What is his reaction to the song? Does he like it too? Did he return the favor and dedicate one to you?
My husband doesn’t call me The Human iPod for no reason. I could seriously kick ass at Name That Tune if that show were still on TV. I know my music and I love my music, so I collect my music. It took me hours of iTunes browsing just to narrow it down to my top three and then it was almost impossible for me to pick just one. But, alas, I did.
It’s a short and sweet little song called “Beautiful Surprise” by India Arie and I chose it for so, so many reasons. I knew the song before I knew my husband but it never resonated with me before he walked into my life. I won’t lie to you girls, I was very bruised and broken when I met The Man. Love hadn’t been kind to me in the past and I had begun to look at it as something that brought pain and not real pleasure. I wasn’t allowing myself to be bitter about it, but instead I had just moved on. Back then I thought to myself: Maybe love’s for me, or maybe it isn’t. Either way I’ll be okay, right?
Then I met Gibran and in what felt like just days — seriously! — I began to feel overwhelmed by the warmth of a love so true I almost couldn’t believe it could exist. Everything about the way he loved me took me by absolute surprise. Here was this amazingly wonderful man who just appeared seemingly out of nowhere and wanted to be my rock, my best friend, my teammate, and my lover. He wanted to undo all the hurt the other guys that came before him had caused and at the same time fill my life with all the love and joy he could muster up to give me — even if it exhausted him. Perhaps, the best part of our “beginning” was that I wanted to do the same for him. We became intoxicated by one another and the love that we shared, and it felt like I had been blessed by his love. It was a gift I was given out of the blue and that I cherished so much.
Then one day I was riding along in the car and this song came on. I vaguely remembered it from her album but as I listened I felt myself tearing up and suddenly I was overcome with pure emotion. But I wasn’t sad at all, I was touched. Every lyric brought me joy because it was as if I could have written every word just for him. He was my beautiful surprise. My Christmas that came early. My out of the blue snow day. My A+ on a test I swore I’d failed. My birthday, every day! I never forgot the moment that song connected all the dots for me that day as I rode alone in my car, and I touched on it again when I sat down to write my vows last summer. In those vows I said, “You were such a beautiful surprise!” and even on our wedding day as the words came from my lips I felt my entire body reacting to the truth I felt in them. It was of course the part where I started to cry, despite an extreme effort not to let go and spoil my eye makeup.
The funny thing is, I don’t think I’d ever told Gibran where that line came from or why I wrote it in until the other night when I decided to do my love homework. When I played it for him he immediately recognized the line and started to grin from ear to ear. He didn’t say anything. He just sat there and smiled until the song ended. Then he said just one thing to me. “You surprise me every day baby, because just when things appear that they can’t get any better with us, they do because of you. Just you being you.” I didn’t respond. I just smiled and gave him a big hug. We just sat there and held each other and listened to the rest of my play list rotate. It was one of those magic little moments where we didn’t need to say anything – the song really had said it all. Then the next morning I caught him playing it while he got dressed for work. (Guess it stuck with him this time too.)
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