The Man and I were recently on a game show together (sorry can’t say which just yet guys) and one of the questions we were asked spawned a debate between he and I on the way home about whether or not we are truly each other’s best friends. Now the no-brainer answer here is “of course we are each other’s best friends” but the truth is for me that question is a lot harder to answer than one would imagine. You see I love my husband and he is my best friend, my lover, and my partner in crime. BUT, before he ever took on that title there was someone else in my world who wore the crown well.
Before I even knew my husband existed I had a best friend who was (and is) there for me through the thickest and the thinnest. Attached at the hip since age nine, we often joke that she and I go back like Atari. She is my walking diary and I am hers. I would do anything for her, and I know she’d practically take a bullet for me. (She has a son now so I can’t expect her to actually take that hit, but you get where I’m going with this.) She is my best friend too. Hell, she was the first. My husband consoles me when I’m sad or hurt. She has always done the same. I can and would tell my husband anything. She already knows everything. When something awesome or awful happens in my life I immediately call my husband. Then I call her right after. What I’m really saying here is that although I would unequivocally answer “yes!” if you asked me if my husband is my best friend, I would also add that he’s not my only best friend. Can’t a wife have two? Last I checked my husband still uses the term “my best friend” when he’s talking about our best man, but I’m certain that I also hold that title in his world.
I get that this may be slightly breaking the unspoken laws of marriage here, but I have to say that loving him more hasn’t made me love her any less. If anything I feel blessed to have two amazing people in this world that I can always count on and turn to and I don’t believe that when it comes to dishing out “labels” that I have to choose between the two. Is that such a crime? Initially The Man seemed a little taken back by this but as our relationship grew he got to know the one I share with her and over time I think he began to understand. He’ll probably still swear he’s my one and only best friend, but for now I’m sticking to what’s true: I have two best friends, and one of them is my husband.
Is your husband your best friend? Doe he share the title with someone else?