Got another question from a fan of the blog today (via text!) and it’s a good one! They we’re curious if I’d post about whether or not I think it’ s a good idea to go out to nightclubs with your husband. I’m going to get right to the point here: No, it’s definitely not a good idea. It’s a nice idea (you two, a dance floor, good music, drinks flowing…) but for us it has proven to be very problematic, so these days we shy away from hitting the nightclub scene together. Mostly for two (very good) reasons:
1. You can’t control what other people do when they’re intoxicated. You two may be going out for the evening with plans to be on your best behavior, but let’s be honest here, single people don’t have the same good intentions when they’re headed to a nightclub. Ring or no ring, chances are a very drunk guy will approach me while my husband’s taking a bathroom break or getting another drink. He will want to dance or get my phone number, but he won’t be happy to hear that I’m not alone. If he’s smart, he’ll keep stepping. But if he’s had one too many drinks he may push the issue and linger just long enough to be there when the hubs returns. Um…awkward! The Man does his best, but he’ll admit any day that although he’s confident in our relationship and the love and trust we share, he can (and will) still get a little jealous. And God forbid he’s had a few drinks also. This, my friends, is what you call an instant recipe for disaster!
2. In a way, you’re sort of entrapping single people who are out on the hunt. Seriously, it’s entrapment! Just like when a cop poses as a john to nail a prostitute. Until a single man or woman can get a good look at your wedding ring, from their vantage point over across the room all they see is an attractive person who sparks their interest whom they might want to get to know. It’s truth, people. Single or attached, when you go out you usually
try to look hot. It’s human nature. So if you’re standing there looking hot or dancing (and looking hot!) you’re being a tease. Yes, I said it. You’re teasing the single people in the room who have no idea that if they come any closer they’ll be shut down, and a little embarrassed too. When you think about it, it really is sort of a messed up thing to do.
So there you have it. The reason The Man and I would rather attend a get together at a friend’s house or go to a comedy show than to step out to a DJ enthused nightclub on a Saturday night is because it’s just not worth the inevitable drama. Still want to get your groove (or drink) on together? Here’s your solution: Pick a lounge or hotspot that’s not known for being a single’s pickup parlor and has a more mature “I just got off work and could really use a drinkl” kind of crowd, rather than the “I hope I get lucky tonight” crowd. It’s a safer bet, hands down.
Can you relate? If so, share please!