Thanks to movies, TV, and books it isn’t hard to have a preconceived idea or mental picture of what married life should be like before you jump the broom. Then you take that leap and suddenly your skits don’t always play out quite the same way you (or rather Hollywood and pop culture shall we say?) might have imagined. In certain ways we’re a lot like your “typical” American married couple (if you actually believe there is such a thing) but in so many other ways we’re…well…um…just not! For instance:
We intend to go to bed together but that usually only happens, at best, twice a week. Instead The Man usually falls asleep on the couch while ESPN watches him and I sneak off to bed after giving up on trying to get him up. Or, he’ll pretend he’s going to put on his pajamas and come back and sneak into bed without me after giving up on trying to get me out of the office and my computer – which I’ve been known to stay on until crazy hours like 3 or 4am.
We have a very nice dining room table that we have yet to sit down at together for dinner. Instead we stuff our faces in the living room on the couch in front of the TV, in our bed, or sometimes I’ll munch down at my desk. We always say, “we should sit down and eat like a family” but I’ve decided for that one, I won’t hold my breath.
We’d rather pay for dinner and a movie than pay a utility bill. It’s shameful but true. As I’ve said, budgeting and saving are not yet skills that Team Watkins possess. But hey, we’re trying! (Remember those joint New Year’s resolutions we made?)
Invite us to a dinner party and we’re so there. Ask us to host one and you might sense a little hesitation on our part. We have the space and the spirit, but I’m an interior design/party planning addict and I just refuse to host anything major until everything is perfect. As far as I’m concerned as long as there are more walls to be painted, bookshelves to be organized, and serving platters to be purchased, you won’t be stepping across our threshold unless you’re a very close friend or family member.
I’m not sure I believe in the idea of a “traditional” married couple anyway, but it is amusing to think about how both of us being 80s babies grew up idolizing great TV marriages like the one The Huxtables had on The Cosby Show, only to find out that ours is equally as happy, yet in many ways nothing like it. (Sorry Cliff and Claire!)
Have you been participating in any unmarriedlike behavior lately? Come on, spill it! Or, at least confess your favorite TV marriage icons!
- Marriage: How to Sleep Separately Without Getting Divorced (blisstree.com)
- Dating for Married Couples (brighthub.com)
- Malcolm-Jamal Warner dating Regina King (ontheredcarpet.com)
- Phylicia Rashad Probes ‘Dimensions Of Motherhood’ (npr.org)
- Do Wedding Rings Bring the Creeps Around? (manwifeanddog.com)
- Niecy Nash Leaves Clean House, Vanessa Huxtable Moves In [Video] (jezebel.com)