How Will You Improve Your Marriage in 2012?

happy new year marriage resolutionsWe’re big fans of working on your marriage year round, not just at the beginning of the year. But since this is the time of year people most often set new goals for themselves, it’s as good a time as any to make a new road map for your marriage. The goals you set for your marriage are the destinations. The ways in which you plan to reach these goals (together) are the roads and routes on your map.

How will you travel together this year? What will be the fuel that gets you from where you are today to where you want to be tomorrow? What’s the plan guys? Do tell.

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Man Divorces Wife of 77 Years Upon Learning of Her Affair: Is There A Statute of Limitations on Cheating?

This week a 99-year-old man named Antonio discovered his 96-year-old wife Rosa, whom he’s been happily married to for 77 years, had an affair back in the 1940s.  He uncovered secret letters she wrote to an old lover and lost it. His reaction? He immediately filed for divorce. A decision so shocking, apparently, that it made news headlines in Italy, where the couple reside.  When the news broke, and included details about how his wife “desperately tried to convince him otherwise”, it took merely a day for the story to go viral, and people all over, myself included, began weighing in.

Many sided with Antonio: “He spent most of his life believing she loved only him, and to have that realization hit you that she was lying to you the entire time (in more ways than one) can be pretty devastating,” wrote one commenter. “The fact that she kept the letter would make me think it wasn’t just a fling that meant nothing,” replied another.

Others, well, they felt his reaction was just plain absurd. “Just because he has the ‘right’ doesn’t mean I can’t think his reaction is idiotic,” wrote one woman. “This is something that happened 50-some years ago. Being hurt and angry is understandable. Making it more important than everything else in the 77 year marriage is ridiculous.” She has a point there. Posed another woman: “Honestly, at a certain point, is it really worth it? Good question! Continue reading

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Is Taking Off Your Wedding Rings the First Sign of Trouble? (The Katy Perry and Russell Brand Lesson)

russel brand katy perry divorce split breakupThis week the rumor mill began spinning out gossip surrounding the possible end of the marriage between actor Russell Brand and singer Katy Perry. I like them together so, of course, I gave in and clicked around to see what all of the buzz was about. It looks like “sources say” the pair had a huge pre-holiday fight and Katy nixed her plans to fly her family out to London to be with her hubby and opted to hit the waves in Hawaii with her girlfriends. Paparazzi snapped photos of her swimming without her ring – big deal, she’s in the ocean – setting off the rumors that they had in fact called it quits. To add fuel to the flame, Russell was also spotted without his ring in London; only he wasn’t swimming, just hanging out. Yikes. I admit, it’s not looking good.

But, what do we know? Couples do fight – especially around the holidays, sadly. And, I’m not convinced that taking off your rings means you’ve completely ended things. Although, I do think it’s a sign of trouble.

I only take my wedding ring off to shower, bath, or swim, but hey, I’m a newlywed who still just loves to stare it at it sometimes, so maybe I’m a little bias.

Do you ever not wear your ring? If so, when? Have you ever spotted your husband without his? Were you cool with it? Put simply…is an empty left hand ring finger a sign of trouble in the marriage?

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Happy Holidays From Man, Wife, and Dog!

awkward family photo holiday photoWe’re wishing you and yours a fabulous, peaceful, and blessed holiday season. Remember, you are the greatest gifts to each other — every day of the year. Enjoy each other!

All Our Love,

Man, Wife, and Dog

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Vanessa Bryant Calls It Quits on Her Marriage, Could You Forgive and Forget Your Husband’s Indiscretions?

Vanessa and Kobe Bryant during his 2003 sexual assualt scandal.

Breaking News: Vanessa Bryant has filed for divorce from husband Kobe Bryant, of the LA Lakers, bringing an abrupt end to their ten-year marriage — a marriage that, as many of you know, was plagued with controversy, scandal, and frequent rumors of his infidelity. According to TMZ.com, Vanessa filed divorce papers this afternoon citing “irreconcilable differences”. These differences, most of America can assume, would be his many alleged infidelities.

Sources say Vanessa suspects Kobe has cheated, again, and after standing by him in 2003 when he was accused of sexually assaulting a Colorado woman, she’s really had it this time. And, can you blame her? I for one felt she showed tremendous courage back then when she publicly stood beside a man who admitted to cheating on her with a woman who was later found to have slept with as many as six men in one evening. I love my husband, but I can’t say that I could forgive and forget such a blatant disrespect to our vows. Yet, Vanessa chose to forgive, and forget. (Many say that 4-million-dollar “I’m sorry” ring he gave her helped a bit.) If Kobe did in fact step out on his lovely wife, yet again, he won’t get any sympathy points from me today. A woman can only stand so much. Loving a man, marrying him, and committing to a life with him, don’t mean you’re doomed to endure his bullshit ‘til death do you part. Cheating once and having it become public knowledge was humiliating enough – having to endure that once more is likely the straw that broke the camel’s back on this one. Kobe obviously took her trust and support for granted – again. Vanessa’s had it. I get that. Good for her!

What do you ladies think? Could you forgive your husband for an indiscretion? If you did it once, could you do it again? What would he have to do to earn your trust again?

To learn more about my thoughts on adultery, read my Open Letter to Homewreckers now.

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Sometimes Marriage Means Graceful Sacrifice (The Khloe and Lamar Odom Lesson!)

khloe kardashian and lamar odom photoIf you follow sports, or celebrity gossip, or both, you’ve most likely heard by now that former LA Laker Lamar Odom has been traded to the Dallas Mavericks. (Man isn’t pleased.) The news angered Lakers fans big time, but I’m guessing none of them were quite as pissed as reality star Khloe Kardashian, his devoted wife. The pair, who’ve been blissfully married for two years, must now uproot themselves from their LA home base and book on down to Dallas to start a brand new life. That’s a big deal, people! Sure, when you marry an NBA player you must always be prepared for the awful possibility that your husband might actually get traded off to some random team in some random city you thought you’d never ever go to, much less live in, but I’m thinking no wife is ever thrilled with this news when it actually happens. Why would she be?

That’s why I’m giving big kudos to Khloe! Not only is she saying farewell to having her closest friends and family and favorite shops a hop, skip, and a jump away, but she’s done so with both grace and positivity — two qualities we don’t see enough in famous wives. She could have thrown a celeb-grade bitch fit (like so many spoiled stars do), but she took the high road instead. She digested the news, then moved on to embrace the change with am exceptionally positive outlook. Even when you’re living your happily ever after with your dream guy, being uplifted from all you know and love is one hell of a sacrifice to make, even for your husband. That can’t be easy. Khloe, I feel your pain. Continue reading

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