“What can we do together in just one hour in the evenings that doesn’t involve a remote?”
Just yesterday, I posed this very question to my Facebook fans about spending quality time with your lover. My husband (Man) took on a second job in May. Because he now works from 4a.m.-8p.m. Monday thru Friday, his goes to bed earlier than some kids I know. I have a long commute and a busy job too, so on average we get about one hour—yup , 60 freakin’ minutes!—together before one of us basically passes out where we sit. When we realized we were spending that hour staring at the television instead of each other, we decided to try to introduce “mini dates” (yes we have those) that didn’t involve smartphones or the TV. He really is my best friend, and I am his, so finding activities wasn’t the hard part; keeping them interesting enough to stay awake for was. (I wish I could he would let me share this picture I snapped of him passed it with a Scrabble letter in one hand and Dog’s ear in the other.) Here’s a little list of remote-free mini dates we thoroughly enjoy in the evenings, when we can stay awake for them. Below it you’ll find three great suggestions from other readers. I hope you’ll add your own ideas and success stories too.
There are thousands of options here. We recommend a guilty-pleasure style one that brings the laughs to keep it interesting, and keep you alert. (We’re subscribers and regular listeners of The Read.) We’ve tried playing podcasts together while we cook dinner, shower and iron clothes, as well as just curled up together on the couch for an episode. It’s nice to share something you only have to listen to so you can maintain eye contact, which is always sexy.
Whether you’re evening shower people or morning shower people, this is an excellent way to spend time together and keeps things exciting when your time together is limited. Note: Rain shower faucets really take things up a notch and make sharing the hot water way more doable.
Conference Them In
We stumbled on this one accidentally. When I’m buried in our couch pillows, feeling lazy, and my cell phone rings, I usually put it on speaker mode so I don’t have to hold it. (With full disclosure to the person on the other end, of course.) Every now and then while I was super into a juicy chat with a mutual friend of ours, my husband would just join in on the conversation. They kind of became one big conference call and we realized we both enjoyed catching up with friends or family “together.” It sounds simple, I know, but now we find ourselves saying “let’s call such and such.” Admittedly, we’re both big talkers, so this one comes easy. But if you are too, I highly recommend you give it a go. Disclaimer: Calling the most interesting and least swamped people in your contact list on a weekday night is your best bet, for obvious reasons. Yes, this means don’t call anyone with small kids. (Wink!)
Best Of The Rest
These mini date ideas came from our readers, but we cosign, so I just had to share.
– Read A Book To Each Other Before Bed
– Make Dessert Together (Feeding Optional) Because Dinner’s Not As Fun
– Take A Walk (or Walk The Dog Together)
– Dust Off A Board Game
– Create A Wind Down Playlist Together (Then Dance To It)