News broke today that Vanessa Bryant, former wife of LA Lakers star Kobe Bryant, has received quite a hefty divorce settlement, as many expected. TMZ is reporting that Vanessa will receive $75 million dollars and three multi-million dollar properties – the home she and Kobe lived in with their two daughters, the new home they’d been building for the last two years, and the home her mom lived in, which the couple owned. Wow!
Now, as I said before when news of her divorce filing and his infidelity first broke, this woman has clearly been patient and no one can argue that after 11 years and one seriously embarrassing public cheating scandal, she doesn’t deserve an out if she wants one. Plus, it’s rumored their marriage ended because she found out he had stepped out on her once again. Yet, there was an outpouring of outrage today on the web with comments flooding in about how Vanessa “doesn’t deserve that much” and is “taking Kobe for all he’s worth”. Um, he’s worth double that people, and don’t you think she’s entitled to half of “their net worth”? Granted it’s astronomically larger than the averages person’s worth, but the rules are the rules no? But really, all of that aside, one has to ask, how much is heartbreak worth?
If I publicly and privately stood by my husband after he repeatedly cheated on me and drug our family name through the mud and media circus time and time again, only to find out that he broke his promise and had committed adultery once again I’d be pretty torn up about it. Seriously, pieces of my heart could be found lying throughout our home. If I had a chance to ease some of the pain with the comfort of knowing both me and our children would be more than taken care of for life, I’d surely go for it. It’s no cure for a broken heart, but it’s the best bandage you’re ever going to find. Really, how much is heartache and pain worth when a marriage goes sour? I don’t think you can put a dollar amount on the pain a man or woman feels when they find out the one they loved and trusted deceived them greatly. And since you cannot name a price, how can any one amount be too much or too little? All the stacks of money in the world won’t make the pain go away, but moving on with your life will – eventually.
What do you think? Can you put a price on pain when divorce strikes? Should the haters cut Vanessa some slack and let the woman grieve? Or are you thinking she should have just walked away and left it all? Thought, please.