By now you’ve all heard Gloria Cain’s reasons for supporting her husband Herman Cain, whose campaign for presidential candidacy has been seriously stalled by numerous allegations from women that he sexually harassed them in the past. Put simply, she feels that since her husband “respects women” and always has, the man she knows couldn’t possibly do the things his accusers say he did.
Although Mrs. Cain did seem remarkably genuine, most of America isn’t buying it, and have as a result, labeled her “naïve”. I agree, but for different reasons. Sadly, when it comes to cut-throat politics it’s hard to know when you’re being sold the truth or a lie. Did Cain do it? I don’t know. It would seem like it, but who knows?
This blog isn’t about my thoughts on politics or the presidential campaign, so I’ll move on to my point here. I think Mrs. Cain is “naïve” to think that the man she married could never ever do a complete 180. You shouldn’t go into a marriage expecting the person you love to change, but let’s fact it here, sometimes people do. As a wife, yes, it is your duty to stand by your husband and support him, but at what point does truth trump loyalty? Had her argument been that she’s certain the women are known liars, or received payment for their “accusations” to help take down his presidential aspirations, I might have understood her more. But if her only adamant justification for supporting him “200 percent” was because there’s no way the man she knows could do those things, I can’t help but want to ask Mrs. Cain, are you sure you dear hubby Herman couldn’t change?
Now I’m not part of their marriage, so I can’t make a call on this one either way. Not my place. But I do feel compelled to at least point out here that sometimes a man isn’t what you think he is – even if that man’s your husband. And, as much as it’s your duty to stand by him, it’s your duty to dig for facts to support your loyalty and not ignore the writing on the wall if things go wrong. Are you being a “good wife” if you’re ignoring the signs that the man you married may not be who you thought he was, or has, in fact, changed? I don’t think so. Now, let me say again, I expected her to do nothing less than defend her husband on national TV, but I do wonder how she’ll feel watching this tape again later if she finds out the allegations were in fact true and she had just an inkling that she was defending an abuser of women? How will she sleep at night?
I’ll leave you with this question: When, if ever, should you stop standing by your man?
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