Now as many of you know by now, I make it no secret that we don’t plan on renaming the blog Man Wife and Dog (and Baby!) any time soon. We’ll get there, but we’re not there.
When it comes to my life, I like to plan for as much as possible, arguably too much. I’m also good for putting up many of the very hurdles I have to cross to get to the goals I set – sometimes other, including my husband, calls them excuses.
Being a goal-oriented excuse maker can sometimes prove to be a problem. For instance, I’ll say I need to workout more, but I must have new sneakers and a gym membership before I do it. Once I get around to getting those things, I head toward my goal – full speed ahead – but when I put up too many “hurdles” (I like that better than excuses, can you tell?) I sometimes make it almost impossible to get there. So when it comes time to talk babies (my husband is getting the itch) I’m quick to tell you all the things I feel we need to have or do before we can go there — the number one reason being my career.
I could go on for hours about how I need more time to do this, do that, save more. A lot of my friends will tell you they think I’m full of it, because they’re busy mommas who are living out their dreams simultaneously. But up until last night I was seriously rooted in my beliefs about waiting until “the right time”. (I know what you’re thinking: There’s no such thing!) Then I heard about Beyonce’s big baby announcement at the VMAs, and the first thing I thought was, wow, if the busiest woman on the planet can take a break for baby, why can’t I?
I know it sounds silly, I do, but I truly felt that way. Whether you’re a fan or hers or not, you have to respect Beyonce’s hustle. She works hard, and gets everything she sets out to do done, and done very well too. Every time an interviewer asked her about she and hubby Jay-Z’s plans for a baby she was quick to tell you it really wasn’t in the plans for now. She said it so much I think we all believed her; which added to the delighted surprise it seems America simultaneously felt when the news broke. Now, that said, I don’t base my life decisions on those of overpaid celebrities (talented or not), but her decision certainly has inspired me to rethink whether or not I’m just “making excuses” or if there really are a few more “hurdles” left for me to cross. Hmm…
Are you a mommy? How did you know it was time? Did you go with the flow, or plan your pregnancy? Am I making this too hard?