This headline reeled me on in today on AOL and I’m super glad I clicked. This video features TODAY Show Financial Editor Jean Chatzky discussing the four letter word all couples should beware of if they want to increase their chances of having a successful marriage. I thought it was FICO (as in score), but it’s not. The answer might surprise you. Watch, then let’s chat about it below.
The Man and I spend a lot of time trying to figure out where our money goes. This scares me a lot of times because I think back to the one thing that my father always stressed when it came to marriage advice: “Finances will destroy a marriage. Even a loving one.” Since we’re nowhere near masters of the finance game, but we have a lot of love, these words sit with me often. Money is something we know we need to work on and we’re working together now to discover new ways to take on debt and spending that work for us.
Interestingly enough, I think the first step in doing this is recognizing what you’re not willing to comprise on, and why. For instance: My husband pointed out that I spend like $20 a week on large iced teas from Dunkin Donuts and that’s money we could be saving. True, except, I need that tea like coffee addicts need their morning cup. It levels me out and it makes me happy. A happy me, makes for a happier marriage, so I’m not going to give up my iced-tea splurges. BUT, I am willing to discuss cutting back on newsstand magazine purchases and random gifts for The Dog. To me, it’s compromises like this one that will help us find a financial plan of action we can live with. Everything ain’t for everyone, right?
Do you and yours have smart shopping habits? Do you believe finances can do your happy marriage in? Is the sale rack your enemy?