The other day I told a friend my husband and I were having a rough week and arguing a lot and she said, “that means you’ll have a weekend full of make-up sex, so I’m actually jealous of you.” Funny enough, she shouldn’t be, because we don’t make up that way. Now, no judgments here if you and yours prefer to repair pain with passion – I believe to each it’s own. It’s just that after she said that I started thinking about exactly how we usually bounce back from a bad moment, and I realized laughter is our Band-Aid of choice.
Maybe it’s because we fell in love laughing at each other’s jokes and ways, or maybe it has something to do with the fact that we’re both pretty light-hearted by nature — I’m not quite sure– but either way I know that whenever we’re really, really upset with each other a laugh is what always makes it better. Usually it’s instant. Sometimes even the fact that we’ve been ignoring each other while in the same room for hours is just so ridiculous that one of us just burst into laughter and the other follows.
When The Man knows he’s wrong and he’s trying to make it right, he makes me laugh. When I’ve said too much or gone too far I find forgiveness with a laugh. I don’t know that we even know that we’re doing it, it’s just our way. I admit, I like it that way. Fighting or disagreeing is never fun, and when you’re doing nothing but that it can be such a heavy burden on your shoulders. Laughter lightens our load. We don’t always forget what’s happened, or what was said, but we do forgive – and laughter helps us get there. If laughter doesn’t do it, we usually either leave a note or take a nap and hope to wake up with a fresh perspective.
What’s your make-up style? How do you get past the bumps and back to smooth sailing on your road to ever after?