My husband said “I love you” first because I was too chicken to do it and I waited him out. Once he said it, I started saying it back, and there’s been nothing but “love” between us ever since. In fact, I’m starting to notice just how often we use the phrase “I love you.” We use it as a salutation: “Morning, love you!” We use it to show gratitude by adding it behind a “thank you.” We use it to say goodbye. We use it to say sorry…
To be honest we use it like six or seven times a day, occasionally two or three times in one phone conversation. When I spell this out it sounds sort of extreme to me, but if you were a fly on our wall listening in, I swear you’d think that though frequent, our use of the phrase “I love you” was always natural and appropriate.
On the other hand we spend times with lots of different couples and I don’t think I’ve ever heard some of them use the phrase to each other. Not saying they don’t say it; just saying not enough for a close friend to notice. Yet, they’re still obviously happy and in love.
It’s no secret that every couple has their own way of communicating. “I love you” is a huge part of our communication, but again, that’s just what works for us.
What works for you? How often do you say “I love you” to each other? Could you say it more, or less? Do you use the phrase in different ways?