“So you guys don’t have any problems and everything is sooo peachy huh? Yeah right!!!! Tell the whole truth! Not just the candy coated stuff and the nice stuff. Anyone this happy is hiding something I say. That’s not real. — Anonymous”
Now I don’t plan on making it a habit to respond to every piece of negative mail I’ll ever receive (everyone can’t be a fan of the blog) but in this case I feel compelled to share my reaction to reading this with you all. Here’s what I wrote back:
First and foremost thank you for stopping by and looking around the blog, even if you don’t support nor believe in what I’m doing here. Honestly, I wish you’d hung out and looked around a little more. If you had you’d know that I’ve never once claimed that we “don’t have any problems” or that everything is “peachy” all the time. If it were, well, then it wouldn’t be a healthy marriage. Sure, we fight and we argue and we sometimes damn near want to strangle one another – and I write about that very openly, and honestly — but all the moments in between are truly made up of happiness, love, and peace. If the idea that two people who complete each other could actually find each other, fall in love, work at it and land in a healthy, happy marriage is foreign to you than quite frankly that makes me feel sad. Sad that you think love can’t exist this way and that if it does it must be fake or as you put it “not real”. No, we’re not perfect but what we share is certainly real — trust me I’ve pinched myself quite a few times already and this is still my life. I sincerely hope you get the chance to experience the same thing and in the meantime I encourage you to return to this blog and to keep reading about our good and bad days and the ways in which we work together to work through the tough times and try to come out of it with our marriage in one piece – because trust me, all of it will be here. This blog is about transparency and what you see is (like it or not) what it is.