Man: Are you watching this? Mind if I change the channel?
Wife:Yes, and yes I do.
Wife: What!?!? You did ask. You know what I could go to the bedroom and watch there since this isn’t live, I guess.
Man: (Bigger sigh)…(teeth suck)..never mind it’s cool.
Wife: What’s with all the huffing and puffing? What’s on your mind.
Man: …(long pause)…well you’re kind of a TV hog and I feel like you should know it’s playoff season and I might want to watch the big TV sometimes. It’s kind of selfish don’t you think?
Wife: (jaw drops) ummm..ok. I’m leaving now and you can watch whatever you want alone.
Man: (biggest sigh yet) Nevermind, I should never have said that!!!
Wife: Now I’m even more mad. You should always tell me how you feel. Good or bad! I’d rather that than you keep secrets.
Man: It’s not a secret!
Wife: If you think I’m annoying and you don’t tell me it’s a secret.
Man: I’m in double trouble land huh?
Wife: You betcha!
Now, after having one too many of these kinds of “oopsie” moments in our relationship, and more recently our marriage, we’ve decided that the phrase “I never should have said that” is now officially banned in our home. We’re doing away with it because it’s implications are far worse than the words that came before it. As I soon got The Man to understand, when you wish you hadn’t said something at all that you did in fact feel it’s as if you’re saying “I never should have been honest with you” and that’s just no good. Every relationship needs honesty. Where are you without it? Just think about all the other things you could say instead that would help the situation instead of hurt it. How about: “I didn’t mean for that to come out that way” or “I’m sorry if I hurt your feelings, I didn’t intend to”? They sound so much better don’t they?
So as of right now neither of us will be using the phrase “I never should have said that” in this house. It’s toxic and it has been banned!
Is there something you wish the two of you wouldn’t ever say to one another?