I write so much about our marriage, sharing a very candid and personal look at all the highs and lows, tears and laughs. But what I don’t often do is talk very personally about me. So I got to thinking, how much do my readers really know about me? Probably not as much as I assume when I share my rants and raves and thoughts and opinions. So for those of you who are curious, I wanted to take a minute to share some truths about me, The Wife behind the blog. I present 14 things you probably don’t know about me.
1. I have a large hemangioma (benign tumor) on most of my right hand and some of my right arm. I was born with it so I call it my birthmark. When I was little it looked like raw hamburger meat piled onto my hand but now that I’m all grown up it looks mostly like a very bad burn. Most children are born with hemangiomas on their face so I’ve always looked at it as a blessing that I was spared that horror – even when guys didn’t want to date me in high school because they thought it was “ugly” or when little kids and emotionally stunted adults stare and rudely ask me “how I got such an awful burn.”
2. When I was nine I lost my mother to breast cancer on Valentine’s Day. It was my favorite holiday before then and since I didn’t even know she was sick I took it quite hard. It took me years to heal from the loss and cope with the change in my life and then the year I started college my grandmother (my mom’s mom) passed away from breast cancer and my aunt (my mom’s sister) found out she has the breast cancer gene and told me I should get tested too. I’ve tried many times to muster up the courage to do it but haven’t yet succeeded. To be honest, the potential implications of a positive result scare me to death!
3. I’m right handed but probably borderline ambidextrous. I eat, reach for, and hold things with my left, but write with my right hand.
4. I graduated from Spelman College, a historically black womens college (HBCU) in Atlanta, well-known as the campus where they filmed A Different World in the 80s and what the show’s “Hillman College” was loosely based on. I entered school as a psychology pre-law major because I wanted to be an FBI profiler but fell in love with writing for the school paper and culture and wound up graduating with a degree in Sociology and Anthropology and minoring in English.
5. I have a master’s degree in journalism from University of California at Berkeley (I graduated with a 4.0 if you can believe it) and when I lived there my friends swear I had so much fun getting immersed in the laid-back culture of the area that I almost turned into a “hippie”. (I am however “back to my old self” since returning to New Jersey post graduation.)
6. When I’m being secretive I speak pig Latin (a southern mainstay I picked up from spending my early childhood years with my mom and grandma in Beckley, West Virginia ) with my family and I’m trying to teach my husband – who swears it’s impossible to pick up. He’s absolutely hilarious when he tries to practice.
7. I adore dogs. The Dog is actually my seventh fur ball. I’ve had to love and mourn two great dane mixes (Starskey and Hutch) and four miniature schnauzers (Tiffany, Murphy Brown, Macgyver, and Tux) prior to falling madly in love with our dear Karma. I want two more right now but The Man is not having it. I however will not give up!
8. I have incredible reflexes – no joke. If it were anything else I’d see a doctor about it, but I figure it can’t hurt to be able to react like a speeding bullet to impending danger or catch a glass before it even finishes deciding it will fall.
9. I’m a total daddy’s girl. I have an incredible relationship with my father and my little brother (who’s a professional poker player who lives the bachelor life in Las Vegas), I call them and my husband “the only men I’ll ever need in this world”, and I would cause serious pain to anyone who ever hurt them.
10. Anyone who knows me would describe me as habitually bubbly and confident. They’d also say that I’m always positive and happy. Ironically, although that is all true I suffer from horrible night terrors when I sleep and panic attacks that come out of nowhere; both of which I’m constantly battling to get under control.
11. I don’t go to church anywhere near as much as I know I should, but no matter what I always pray for my friends and family every night before bed.
12. I can flip my tongue over. According to Ripley’s Believe It Or Not, only one in every 10,000 people can do that, so it makes me just that much more awesome.
13. I love to gamble and might just be one of the luckiest people you know. I’ve hit seven slot machine jackpots since turning 21 and having the ability to freely roam the casino floors. I’ve won a total of $9,000 on slots and probably half that on the poker tables. I have a picture of the payout and me standing next to it giving a thumbs up for every machine I’ve won on. Just don’t ask me how much I’ve given the casinos back. Grrr!
14. If I could live the last 10 years over I would study art and photography in college, maybe skip grad school (and all the debt that came with it) all together, and start my own wedding and lifestyle photography business and travel the world photographing love. I’d probably write a few books about it too.
Okay that’s enough from me for now. Nice catching up with you! Have a great weekend.