We Are SO Not the Huxtables (A Look At Our Very Unmarriedlike Behavior)

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a marriage like the huxtables on the cosby show

Sorry Cliff and Claire!

Thanks to movies, TV, and books it isn’t hard to have a preconceived idea or mental picture of what married life should be like before you jump the broom. Then you take that leap and suddenly your skits don’t always play out quite the same way you (or rather Hollywood and pop culture shall we say?) might have imagined. In certain ways we’re a lot like your “typical” American married couple (if you actually believe there is such a thing) but in so many other ways we’re…well…um…just not! For instance:

We intend to go to bed together but that usually only happens, at best, twice a week. Instead The Man usually falls asleep on the couch while ESPN watches him and I sneak off to bed after giving up on trying to get him up. Or, he’ll pretend he’s going to put on his pajamas and come back and sneak into bed without me after giving up on trying to get me out of the office and my computer – which I’ve been known to stay on until crazy hours like 3 or 4am.

We have a very nice dining room table that we have yet to sit down at together for dinner. Instead we stuff our faces in the living room on the couch in front of the TV, in our bed, or sometimes I’ll munch down at my desk. We always say, “we should sit down and eat like a family” but I’ve decided for that one, I won’t hold my breath.

We’d rather pay for dinner and a movie than pay a utility bill. It’s shameful but true. As I’ve said, budgeting and saving are not yet skills that Team Watkins possess. But hey, we’re trying! (Remember those joint New Year’s resolutions we made?)

Invite us to a dinner party and we’re so there. Ask us to host one and you might sense a little hesitation on our part. We have the space and the spirit, but I’m an interior design/party planning addict and I just refuse to host anything major until everything is perfect. As far as I’m concerned as long as there are more walls to be painted, bookshelves to be organized, and serving platters to be purchased, you won’t be stepping across our threshold unless you’re a very close friend or family member.

I’m not sure I believe in the idea of a “traditional” married couple anyway, but it is amusing to think about how both of us being 80s babies grew up idolizing great TV marriages like the one The Huxtables had on The Cosby Show, only to find out that ours is equally as happy, yet in many ways nothing like it. (Sorry Cliff and Claire!)

Have you been participating in any unmarriedlike behavior lately? Come on, spill it! Or, at least confess your favorite TV marriage icons!

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10 Responses to We Are SO Not the Huxtables (A Look At Our Very Unmarriedlike Behavior)

  1. Josef Sawyer says:

    On paper my family was the Cosby's but in reality the dynamic was closer to Roseanne's…

    I thought eating dinner on the couch was a normal thing… You spend all with your family so dinner was like the one time you could just enjoy food and watch your fav show or just eat in quiet… In the same room yes but separate…

  2. We are much like you, we never go to bed at the same time but we always hug and kiss before we fall asleep, we don't host anything because our furniture is ratty and we need new stuff and my husband does 95% of the cooking.

    It works just fine for us. :)

    • ManWifeDog says:

      Ha! I hear you. Our couch is pretty ratty too. We got it from Bob's Discount Furniture. It seemed like a good idea at the time, and a great deal — then we sat on it. Wamp…waaaamp!

  3. Tiffany says:

    Going to bed together is a lost cause for us.

    As for dinner, I do try to implement dinner at the table one or two times per week… without the TV on. I swear it's like pulling teeth.

  4. Tiffany says:

    Oh – I LOVE your blog by the way :)

  5. Jami says:

    HAHAHAHAHAHAHA!! I love it! We are the same way…tragically! Well minus the sleep together, though I end up staying up til 2 watching trash tv while he twitches and snores in his sleep. Not too glamourous either…

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  7. @Josef Roseanne's?!? I love it. Yeah ours was more like keeping up with the kardashians…lol..minus the extra siblings…hahaha!

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