Yes, it’s that time again. Like most Americans, The Man and I don’t usually make a habit of sticking to the goals we set at the beginning of each year, but this year we’ve promised to hold each other accountable and see how that goes. Gibran and I made separate lists of our personal goals for the year, shared them with one another, and then created a joint list to try and live by. And here we go…
The Man: Personal New Year Resolutions
Make a little more time in the evenings for my wife! For the past couple months I feel like we’re just two ships passing in the night because we’ve both been so busy. So even if it means us making sure to have dinner together every night or making time to talk about our days right before we go to bed, I really want to make even more time for her.
Get back on a regular workout routine. My goal is to work out 45 minutes a day, at least, no matter what. I want to make time to do this between the time I get home from work and when my wife gets home from work so I won’t be doing push-ups when she wants to spend time with me.
I want to start a new career that can grow into a business. Right now I’m strongly considering taking up a new trade like plumbing, or electrical work, so that I can start my own business in the next two year and be my own boss for a change. I’m a hard worker and it’s time to make it pay off for me. (No offense to the retail industry.)
Eat healthier and cut down on the booze. I admit I drink a little too much and I’m determined to cut down and only drink on special occasions and during vacations for 2011. As far as eating right, I’m going to eat more fruits and veggies, drink less coffee and leave the whoppers alone.
The Wife: Personal New Year Resolutions
Continue my weight loss journey with no cheating! In 2010 I joined Weight Watchers and lost almost 45 pounds (give or take the few that I gained back post-wedding and throughout the holiday pie-eating season) and I’d still like to lose another 40 before 2012. I know I can do it, because I’ve done it. Now, I need to believe again that I can go without cheating or skipping a workout and re-commit to getting healthier and eating right.
Make more time for hobbies that I love but never get around to doing! Things like scrapbooking, photography, and writing are my passions but I don’t always get to spend time doing them. That’s not going to be acceptable in 2011. I need to make time for the things that make me happy – no ifs, ands, or buts implied.
Travel internationally! I’ve been to a lot of places, but never further east than the south Caribbean, and never further west than Hawaii. This year, I MUST go somewhere where English is the second language and the flight to get there is a lot longer than I can probably handle. I have my sights set on the Mediterranean. Greece or Spain would be ideal. I’d also love a stop in London if possible. (I’m nuts over British accents.) I’m 28 and I need more stamps in my passport. I’ve been putting off being a mother to “have more time to travel and see the world” and this year (and probably the next one too!) will be about making time to do that.
Spend less time in front of the TV and computer and more time outside! I love the outdoors and though I spend some time doing things that don’t involve electronics, in 2011 I vow to spend less time typing and watching my DVR lineup and more time outside enjoying something that doesn’t need to be plugged in.
Finally write my first book! I already know what it’s about, but I’m not telling just yet. There are so many friends and family members in my life (Josef Sawyer you especially!) who have been pushing for me to write a masterpiece for years. I’ve procrastinated on this for way too long and I’m not going to do it anymore. This year I will write a book, or two, if it kills me! Stay tuned for details. I’ve already promised myself the first draft of my first one will be complete by the spring. I’m not going to wait for a book deal either – I plan to self-publish if I have to.
Our Joint New Year Resolutions
Learn to save – for real! I, The Wife, was unemployed most of 2010, so it wasn’t exactly the most lucrative year for us. But now that we’re both working again, and our debt is finally getting paid down, it’s time for us to focus on one of the things we have yet to master — saving! We mean to, but we always end up spending the short term savings on things like travel and social activities. It’s nice to do those things, but having some real money in the bank would be even better. So, we’ve decided to focus on good cheap fun this year and truly commit to building our savings. Wish us luck because it’s never as easy as it sounds, right? But we will commit to working at it and that’s a big deal for us.
Let go of the little things! Both of us suffered from panic attacks this year. I was having so many at one point that the doctor has actually put me on medication for the time being. After researching panic attack thoroughly, I realized that even when your life seems like it’s blissful there can be things beneath the surface that are frustrating you or stressing you that you tend to hold in and hold on to. Doing that can really lead to trouble if you don’t find a way to release that negative energy. I smile a lot, and I like to enjoy my life, but I do tend to allow the little things to build up and weigh my shoulders down. And Gibran does this even more than I do most days. He needs to work on his road rage, for example, and how easily he can become agitated when life doesn’t go his way, while I could learn that sometimes other people’s shit is just theirs and I can’t take on the world’s problems, or fix them all. We have both vowed to “woo-sah” more in 2011 and just let things be what they are – good or bad. Punches, let’s roll!
Make our house more of a “home”! We take a lot of pictures that never get framed and buy paint that never makes it on the walls. It’s so easy to put off things like decorating, or organizing when you’re both crazy busy. BUT, this year we want that to be different. We’re going to finally get to some of the things on our apartment to-do list. Things like: painting our living room, buying shelves, and picking out a new bedroom furniture set. We won’t be letting this little things drop off our radar this year, promise.
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- Three Tips to Help You Stick to Your 2011 New Year’s Resolutions (walletpop.com)